The Parent Leader Series · Book 2
In a Minute
How to Raise a Child Who Starts Without Being Told, Through the First Move Method
If nothing becomes real until you have asked four times, your child has not learned to ignore you.
Shoes. Please. We are leaving in four minutes. And from the other room, in a tone of complete reasonableness: in a minute. Nothing happens. You say it again. By the fourth time it is not really a sentence any more. Your child has learned, accurately, that the fourth ask is the start signal and the first three are weather. Years of ordinary, loving reminding quietly install a parent as their child's start button. This book is about uninstalling yourself.
Inside this book
- Why this is a starting problem rather than a motivation problem, and why lectures never touch it
- The five delays that look identical from the kitchen doorway and need opposite responses: absorbed, overwhelmed, negotiation, dread, and flat
- The First Move Method: shrink the first move, say it once, make the finish visible, hand it over, and what to do when they still do not move
- Scripts and anti-scripts for the hallway, the homework table, and the bedroom nobody has tidied
- How this looks different at five, at nine, and at twelve
- A chapter on when it is not a habit problem at all, and what to do then
The resistance is not spread across the task. It is concentrated in the first thirty seconds, and doorways can be made wider.
- Author
- Marcus Fenley
- Series
- The Parent Leader Series · Book 2
- Written for
- Parents of children aged 5–12
- Editions
- Paperback · Hardcover · Kindle
- Trim size
- 6 × 9 in
- Publisher
- Tsunami Reading